Why doing everything right no longer protects Canadian families from financial triage
Two young children upset as parents fight at home.
It’s 2026, and most Canadian households aren’t asking how to get ahead — they’re asking how to avoid falling further behind. Fuelled by a quiet frustration and the common refrain behind this anxiety: If I’m doing everything right, why does it still feel like I’m losing ground?
For Stacy Yanchuk Oleksy, CEO of Money Mentors, that sentiment shows up daily in conversations she and her colleagues have with Canadians. These aren’t people who spend wildly; these are Canadians who have already cut spending, already tightened their budget and already done all the tasks required for responsible money management.
As Yanchuk Oleksy pointed out during an interview with Money.ca, the anxiety illustrates a subtle shift in how Canadians are handling the ongoing pressure of higher living costs, where families once talked about budgeting, now the discussion is brinkmanship — deciding what can’t be paid this month, not what should be paid.
These are the households already living lean — and still slipping.
For years, personal finance advice centred on discipline: Track your spending, pay down debt, avoid lifestyle creep.
But many families have reached a point where discipline alone no longer moves the needle.
“For households already stretched, stability just means the pressure isn’t getting worse — not that it’s getting better,” explains Yanchuk Oleksy.
With interest rates staying elevated longer than expected and everyday costs still stubbornly high, the margin for error has disappeared. Even small disruptions — a car repair, dental bill or temporary loss of overtime — can tip a household from “managing” to “making trade-offs.”
In practice, financial triage means deciding which obligations get paid first — and which get deferred.
“Families cut out anything non-essential — less food in the grocery cart, no dining out, pulling kids from activities, postponing travel — while still relying on credit to cover basics like utilities, school costs, or transportation,” says Yanchuk Oleksy. “Further down the line,” she said, “it looks like parents deciding which credit card or line of credit gets paid — and which one doesn’t.”
These choices are not made lightly. They’re tactical responses to a cash-flow problem, not signs of financial recklessness.
But over time, this juggling act becomes exhausting — mentally and emotionally — especially when progress never seems to materialize.
Financial triage doesn’t just strain bank accounts. It strains relationships.
Parents describe guilt over what their kids are missing, anxiety about unopened bills and rising conflict between partners about money decisions that feel impossible to “win.” Even when households agree on priorities, the constant pressure takes a toll.
“Inaction tends to be our default choice when it comes to money,” explains Yanchuk Oleksy. “We’re afraid to make the wrong decision, and the discomfort and shame only grow over time.”
This is often the stage where people stop talking about money with friends or family altogether — not out of secrecy, but shame.
What makes 2026 especially difficult is the disconnect between expectations and reality.
Many Canadians expected rate stability — or early cuts — to ease pressure. Instead, they’re facing a prolonged period where costs remain high, wages haven’t fully caught up and debt relief feels out of reach.
Stability, as Yanchuk Oleksy often points out, doesn’t equal affordability.
And when families do everything they’re “supposed” to do but still fall behind, the psychological impact can be as heavy as the financial one.
As Yanchuk Oleksy explains, there are a few red flags that can be used as alerts — as a signal for when the household has moved beyond short-term stress and into dangerous territory:
Credit cards are consistently maxed out, with no ability to pay more than the minimum
Using payday loans or high-cost instalment loans to cover everyday expenses
Missing or delaying payments on utilities, rent or credit products
Increasing tension or conflict at home is tied directly to money decisions
None of these indicates failure. They indicate a system under strain.
“These are early indicators that stress is turning into a crisis,” Yanchuk Oleksy said. “And the earlier people reach out for help, the more options they have.”
Financial triage isn’t a long-term solution — but it is a signal.
It’s a sign that households may need more than budgeting tweaks. That could mean professional credit counselling, restructuring debt or getting outside help to assess options before the situation worsens.
Most importantly, it means recognizing that falling behind in this environment isn’t a personal failure. It’s a reflection of sustained economic pressure hitting household balance sheets in very real, very human ways.
For many, the goal isn’t about getting ahead but holding on — and knowing when to ask for help before holding on becomes impossible.
This article provides information only and should not be construed as advice. It is provided without warranty of any kind.
